The columns represent the self-talk we are tuning in to at any given time. I call this a “mindset check” because it helps you recognize which voice you are focusing on currently — the inner critic or the inner coach.
This mindset check is a powerful part of becoming a coach to yourself and sharing what you learn with others. The goal is to turn down the volume on the debilitating voice of the inner critic and to develop the habit of listening more consistently to the constructive, positive, resilient, growth-inducing messages that come from your inner coach.[i] Even when you’ve made a mistake, you can better motivate positive change with constructive self-talk, spoken as an inner coach rather than as an inner critic.
Learning to tune in to the language of your heart, which is the source of your inner coach, reconnects you with your highest and best self. As you develop the skill of listening to your inner coach, you may discover a sincere desire to make constructive changes. This is a life-altering shift for many people as they break free of the despair and discouragement that has paralyzed them in the past.
I invite you to make beautiful music in your own life as you discover your inner coach and turn up the volume on its empowering self-talk. Leveraging your character strengths can help you do this. Celebrate the victory of not putting yourself down, and encourage yourself with your strengths instead. That is a big win!